|Are you an unintentional stay-at-home mom?|
When I found out I was pregnant with Cookie my full intention was to return to work when my maternity leave was over. In the meantime, I moved farther away from my parents (and my office), we were in a car accident that totaled my car and I discovered I was not able pump my breastmilk. My body just wouldn't cooperate and I really didn't want to feed my baby formula when I had what nature intended for her to eat available. I suggested telecommuting since I could get high speed internet at home, I had set up a VPN at work that I could access from anywhere and my job did not require me to be on site at all times. The new manager said no way so that was the end of that. Here I am these years later with two daughters.
Much like Jennifer I also came to realize that working outside the home was going to yield less than favorable results because all my income would have to go for childcare. My parents were too far away to care for Cookie on a daily basis and my in-laws are too old. My husband's family all have very full and busy lives that don't allow for them to be a full time babysitter, plus I didn't feel it would be fair for me to dump my child off on them.
Hubby and I have managed to make things work fairly well on one income. We aren't as frivolous with our purchases as we once were. We don't go out as much. There are days when it really gets to me being trapped in the house, but I reason with myself that I am here to teach and raise my beautiful daughters. I homeschool Cookie and I plan to do the same with BonBon.
*Jennifer does a very good job of expressing how she feels in her article Something to call my own: Can I switch sides on the teeter totter? photo credit: limaoscarjuliet via photopin cc